~ Lauren (Pseudonym), Portrait of a Porn Star [At Duke University]
Sandberg’s definition of feminism begins and ends with the notion that it’s all about gender equality within the existing social system. From this perspective, the structures of imperialist white supremacist capitalist patriarchy need not be challenged. And she makes it seem that privileged white men will eagerly choose to extend the benefits of corporate capitalism to white women who have the courage to ‘lean in.’ It almost seems as if Sandberg sees women’s lack of perseverance as more the problem than systemic inequality. Sandberg effectively uses her race and class power and privilege to promote a narrow definition of feminism that obscures and undermines visionary feminist concerns.
~ bell hooks, Dig Deep Beyond Lean In
~ Susan Faludi, Facebook Feminism Like It Or Not
~ Fuck that noise. - I was a manic pixie dream girl, by Laurie Penny
~ Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, Don’t Hate Her Because She’s Successful
The truth is, most women spend the majority of their lives trying not to get pregnant. According to the Guttmacher Institute, by the time a woman with two children is in her mid-40s she will have spent only five years trying to become pregnant, being pregnant, and not being at risk for getting pregnant following a birth. But to avoid getting pregnant before or after those two births, she would had had to refrain from sex or use contraception for an average of 25 years. Almost all American women (99 percent), ages 15-44, who have had sexual intercourse use some form of birth control.
~ Jessica Valenti, Not Wanting Kids Is Entirely Normal
~ Mona Eltahawy, Why do they hate us?
They also engaged in an early 20th-century version of “hooking up.” With women earning little, “treating” was a key to relationships: Men paid for dinner and theater tickets with the expectation that women would reciprocate with sexual favors, as women extracted as much they could from their dates—hats, shoes, jewelry—while trying to maintain their respectability by flirting, even petting, but not going all the way. This was a high-stakes game, in an era when birth control was not legally available. But this new social life also created sexual norms that continue to inform what women and men expect of each other.
Why I prefer to go dutch.
(Singles in the City, WSJ)